Here’s Mary:

I am so blessed that God has given me the gift of poetry to help people express the words in their heart. After being diagnosed with post polio syndrome in December 2006, at the age of 53, the gift blossomed within me. I left my full time career as a social worker to heal my life and to create New World Greeting Cards. I combine my 25 years of having worked as a social worker with my gift of poetry to help people process what they are feeling and together we create healing, loving messages in times of illness and loss. I have been blessed to write keepsake poems to help weave together memories of a loved one who has made their transition. It can be part of a funeral program or be placed in a frame as a treasured keepsake. I can be your Cyrano de Bergerac to create a poetic message that you can write in your own hand or create a card with the poem inside and you can add a personal message. Special occasions can be painful when a loved one is not there to share it with the family. I recently wrote a poem for a bride as a tribute to her dad to be put in her wedding program so that his presence would be felt on her special day.

Here is a sample of an In Memoriam poem: (I shared my recollections about this wonderful man and the family told me what they wanted me to capture about him. I read it at his funeral and so many people asked us for copies after the service)

The day that I first met you, some 20 years ago
I thought you were a general
“That’s my name,” you’d let me know.
I was a worker at the VA, and you were ‘newly blind’
And with every challenge you would face
Great courage you would find.

You were a champion at bowling, though the pins you couldn’t see
And a champion for veterans
BVA’s own deputy.
Despite those chronic headaches and the weakness and the pain
You’d travel and do all the work
And rarely would complain.

A devoted, loving husband – kind in spirit – gentle touch
Adoring father, son and grandpa
Family always meant so much.
Although our hearts are aching – Your Spirit now flies free
To be a guardian angel
For all eternity.

And although you’re not a general, I salute you from my heart
Feeling blessed for having known you
As from this world you now depart.
Your family will go forward, knowing you are now at peace
All the suffering that you endured
Now at last can cease.

God bless you on your journey, we will miss your gentle voice
It was time for God to call you home
We know you had no choice.
Your legacy of character, humble faithful true
Shall endure for generations
A light that’s shining through!

To see more samples for healing/condolence poems visit: http://www.newworldgreetings.com/portfolio/healing
To learn more about New World Greeting Cards and see the portfolio of poems for all occasions you can visit www.newworldgreetings.com

Thank you so much Joan for allowing me to share my gift with your readers.

My sister, Betty, writes notes every single day. Yesterday in her comments on my post, she said, “And the same is true with notes/cards. “Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers” ……..or “…in my heart at this sad time” are enough ….Memories are wonderful to add if a person is comfortable doing so. The bottom line is simply – do something. And do I ever agree with “weeks / even months” later. It is never to late to let someone know you care.”

The card does not need to be fancy. In fact, I personally think sometimes the fancier cards are almost offensive. The most important thing is your personal note. Please don’t just slap your signature on a card — no matter how pretty the verse. Add a personal line or two before you sign your name.

Comfortdoc over at Squidoo.com wrote a beautiful lens about How to Write a Condolence Note. She gives us a long list of closing sentences/phrases for sympathy cards and I am quoting a few of those from her super lens here –
“I’m praying for you
You are in my thoughts
With Deepest Sympathy
My sincere sympathy
With Heartfelt Condolences
Our thoughts and prayers are with you
He/She will never be forgotten
The memory of him/her will always be in our hearts
Thinking of you
Thinking of you during this difficult time”

If finding words for sympathy cards is still an issue for you, I strongly recommend ComfortDoc’s lens for further reading. I often refer to that lens when I am trying to figure out what to say.

I was especially impressed with our own daughter-in-law as she gently explained to our elementary grandchildren — “it is really important that we be with our friends when they are so very sad.” What a lesson to learn so early in life. And it really is that simple, isn’t it? We must be with our friends when they are sad. Sometimes condolence calls are so hard to do and yet we know how important they are. As the grandmother said, “visits help the time pass by.”

And as I visited with his grandmother, and she shared with me all of the cards and notes they have received, I was again reminded of the importance of those sympathy cards. I well remember the comfort we found in sympathy cards when our brother died suddenly. We would sit in dad’s living room and read them aloud to each other. Each one brought comfort. And it is such a simple thing to do — send a little card. I have to admit I am not as good about that as my sister, Betty. But today I am determined to do better. I do know how much it matters!

One of the most important things you can do for your overall health is to keep your blood pressure (hypertension) under control. 140/90 should be the goal for a healthy person’s blood pressure reading, and lower if you have a medical condition such as diabetes or kidney disease. Changing your lifestyle is extremely important if you’ve been diagnosed with high blood pressure. If that doesn’t work, your physician or other health care provider can prescribe medication to help keep it under control.

Among the lifestyle changes that you should make are changing to an appropriate diet plan and getting a moderate amount of exercise each day. Here are some specific lifestyle changes that you can make immediately to lower your blood pressure:

· Reduce salt and sodium – Sodium is a major factor that could significantly raise your blood pressure, and it’s virtually hidden in many of the foods we eat today, such as soups and frozen dinners. Get in the habit of reading the labels of canned or frozen products and limit your sodium intake to 1500 mg per day.

· DASH (Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension) diet – This diet was formulated specifically for people who suffer from high blood pressure and includes a diet of vegetables, fruits, low-fat dairy products and whole grains. You should also get plenty of potassium and reduce your intake of saturated fats.

· Smoking and alcohol – Tobacco causes hardening of the arteries and alcohol may raise your blood pressure. If you smoke, consult your doctor about a plan to quit, and limit your alcohol intake to one or two drinks per day.

· Lose weight – Even if you’re slightly overweight, losing unwanted pounds may help to lower your blood pressure.

· Stress – Too much stress in your life is a major concern if you have high blood pressure. Exercise can help reduce stress as does relaxation and deep breathing, so try to exercise at least a half hour per day and get plenty of sleep.

Lifestyle changes can certainly help to keep your blood pressure under control, but it may not be enough. If your blood pressure remains higher than your doctor thinks it should be, he or she may prescribe a medication to control it.
Diuretics, or water pills, are among the medications that are usually prescribed for high blood pressure. Diuretics help your kidneys flush out the sodium and water in your system. Diuretics may also reduce your chances of having a stroke or heart failure – especially if you’re 80 or older.

Beta blockers are also effective in reducing blood pressure. They serve to open blood vessels so that your heart doesn’t have to work as hard. There are other medications such as enzyme inhibitors, receptor blockers and channel blockers that may also help to lower blood pressure. Ask your doctor about CoQ10 if you are taking any beta blocker.

A combination of drugs may be in order to more effectively reduce your blood pressure, and after the high blood pressure is under control, your health care provider may suggest that you take an aspirin on a daily basis to lessen the risk of cardiovascular problems.

When our granddaughter was a tiny baby, my sister Nancy sent her some talking birds. The cardinal sounded like the real cardinal and he was Jessica’s favorite of all. Nancy knew that my legally blind husband loves the bird sounds and identifying them, and she was sure Poppy and little baby Jessica would enjoy those birds – and she was right.

What none of us realized at the time, was that Jessica was really paying very close attention to those sounds. Jessica is school-age now and this afternoon, she went out on the deck and “talked” to the cardinals in their language. She whistled and whistled and told me that she invited them to come eat. In a very few minutes, we had cardinals at the new feeders — and a few hummingbirds, too.

Coincidence? I don’t think so. I think Jessica’s “whistle” was very familiar to them. I saw it happen. Just like I saw my friend Kate play music for the alligators at Seabrook — and yes, this big mama gator suddenly rose from the depths of the lake. Right in front of my eyes!

Can humans communicate with wild animals? I think so.

Ideally, my cell phone would
1. Hold a charge for a week!! I get tired of putting that phone to bed to rest and recharge.
2. Have Labeled buttons. I don’t want to scroll through a menu.
3. Have a ringer loud enough to hear.
4. Have a volume button I could push way way up high so I could hear who I am talking to.
5. Be bright red so I would never lose it — maybe it should have a chain and hang around my neck – that might work!

Seriously, I have shopped around. I do think our next cell phone will be like this one:

HandleEasy 326i GSM is an easy to use no frills mobile phone for when you simply want to make and receive calls. Direct memory buttons and a large keypad and display make dialing easier, while a vibrating ringer alerts you of incoming calls.

She is an artistic child, and I really just wanted her to approve of the colors I had chosen. I had no idea she even knew what “crocheting” meant.

Within the next few minutes, I pulled out the plastic canvas and yarn I had bought for her a few years ago. (I tend to buy everything too early for my grands – I am an excited grandma for sure!) We had a delightful time, playing with all the colors of yarn and the big needles. Her dad called this morning to tell me that she had chosen to stay home and sew rather than go swimming last evening! Now this grandma is beaming! Of course, I want her to swim and play outside, but I am thrilled that she is excited about sewing.

Now hopefully this little introduction will lead her to a lifetime love of stitching. Stitching — cross stitch, crochet, plastic canvas – is meditative and relaxing and a wonderful hobby for anybody!

So today I am thankful – and dreaming of the hours we will spend stitching together and oooooohing and aaaaaaaahing over colors of yarn as only stitchers can do!

About 4 minutes later:
The violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

At 6 minutes:
A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

At 10 minutes:
A 3-year old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head the whole time. This action was repeated by several other children, but every parent – without exception – forced their children to move on quickly.

At 45 minutes:
The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.

After 1 hour:

He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed and no one applauded. There was no recognition at all.
No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before, Joshua Bell sold-out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100 each to sit and listen to him play the same music.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell, playing incognito in the D.C. Metro Station, was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people’s priorities.

This experiment raised several questions:

* In a common-place environment, at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty?

* If so, do we stop to appreciate it?

* Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made…

How many other things are we missing as we rush through life?

I noticed that they jumped in to all activities – whether we were dancing or singing or playing bingo or marching down the street in our little parade. Whatever we were doing, our senior seniors and our little children led the way. We have cousins in their 70’s and 80’s, as well as two family members who are legally blind – and guess who was in the middle of all the action! Our senior seniors!

As senior citizens, we simply must remember to approach every event with enthusiasm and to participate in life with joy! I love my older cousins – but even more than loving them, I admire their enthusiasm and willingness to be a part of all our crazy activities.

Oh Lord, let me remain enthusiastic and interested as I age. Allow me to follow in the footsteps of my senior cousins who know how to have fun and live life. Grant me the grace to be a loving and joy-filled guest at all family events.
Amen and Amen!